Advice from the Shower

One of the activities at my bridal shower was for everyone to write down some marriage advice for me. This is the advice I received.

First and foremost keep God in your home, secondly plenty of laughter.

Talk to one another before you go to bed.

Love, trust, and above all communicate with each other and God.

If conflicts - when conflicts - arise, give each other space; but never go to bed without touching hearts even if discussion of the conflict has to wait until later.

Always be kind and thoughtful. Make him think your ideas were his ideas.

[Have] love and compassion for each other and consideration.

In order to strive for a successful marriage, you should, above all, love the Lord and consult Him in all you do, you should always communicate and not let conflicts fester or linger, and treat each other with kindness and consideration, even when it seems to be Mission: Impossible!

Have respect for each other.

Love and trust in one another with faith in God will get you through.

Just be yourself!

Dewdrops of Romantic Wisdom

This is advice received from Sharon Conway.

Married Wisdom:

• Don't sweat the small stuff: Unless you come home from a mission trip to find your man in bed with another woman don't sweat it.
• Put it to the ten year test: Will whatever is upsetting your world at the moment really matter ten years from now...If not, don't sweat it because its some small stuff.

Wisdom for Your Man:

• Treat her as Christ would treat her.
• Love her as Christ would love her.
• Talk to her when angry in a voice or manner as Christ would talk to her.
• Respect her as Christ would respect her.
• Do all of these as Christ would do unto her and she will love you with a love that exceeds your greatest expectations. For this love will be a love for the Christ in you and you will reap all the glorious benefits.

RX for love filled with passion even after 27 years:

• Husband:
  • give your wife one 15 second hug (without a kiss) 4 times a day and as needed.
  • give a 3 to 5 second kiss to your wife upon arriving or departing from the home.

Recommended reading:

• How to make love with your clothes on
• 101 ways to Romance your wife/husband (There's a version for each spouse) by David and Anne Frahm

Additional Advice

"Submission doesn't mean you lose your identity. Nor does it mean you change your beliefs - You may be right." -Bill Rowley